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This article will cover three situations where people often find it harder to make friends - generally being an adult, being in a new city, and being out of university. The advice for dealing with them is similar enough that I'll cover them all in one spot. They share the common obstacle you're no longer surrounded by hundreds or thousands of your peers like you are when you were in high school or college. Post-graduation, people are also way more likely to be busy with work and family. You have to hustle more to find a social circle. The ideas here are a supplement to the general principles in articles like How To Make Friends And Get A Social Life and How To Meet People.
In university someone can often get a good-sized social circle together pretty quickly if they're good at that kind of thing. There's endless people to meet all at once, and they're often eager to make friends themselves. All they may have to do is join a frat or sorority during their first week at school, and instantly have twenty friends to hang out with every day. Outside of college you don't have those easy opportunities. Sometimes things will fall into place and you'll meet a new group all at once, like by joining a rec sports teams. But it's also likely you'll have to put together your social life one bit at a time.
You may make one friend through work, maybe two through a place you volunteer, one through the bridge club you joined. You may check out a bunch of classes and events and find they're a bust. There may be stretches where there's not a lot of progress. When you were a student you may have met a lot of your friends seemingly without doing anything. Like you may have moved into a dorm, and there was an unspoken assumption that everyone on the same floor would hang out together every weekend. Once school's done friendships don't fall into your lap as often. These approaches may be outside your comfort zone, or feel too forced or unnatural. It may make you nervous to walk into an event full of strangers and try to make small talk with them.